Friday, January 13, 2012

Gift handling - tip requested

What would you do if you were gifted very very generously from someone unexpected ????
Folks ... pls respond.

A guest we invited for our house warming gifted us very very generously ... the types you would gift for very very close circle. The said person is not really very close. BP and I didn't know what we should do ... infact BP felt that the said person (a young bachelor) is perhaps unaware of the gifting amounts and we should call him and return the gift. I thought that would not go very well with the gifter. (is that a word??? ... gifter / giftee hahha)

What would you do?

8 comments:

Rohini Kishore said...

I think you should just accept it gracefully... Perhaps he is really generous and enjoys showering people with such gifts. Should you get an opportunity to gift him, you can reciprocate the gesture, Perhaps u can just call him and say that u think it was a tad too lavish and leave it at that. But returning it may not be appropriate,,, it may even give him the message that he cannot afford such an expensive gift...

B o o. said...

A single friend did the same for Antu when she came to see the newborn. We were shocked. I thanked her and said it was nt necessary. But I had the opportunity to payback in the next few years by inviting her home for lunches and dinners and the big pay off happened when she got married!!! :)

Arthi said...

Hey, I came across your blog when I searched for the term 'paathi' (the little mud bridges that one builds around the plants to help hold water?) and loved reading some posts. I blog about my daughter too. I would love for you to visit and read my blog. Keep blogging!

mim said...

agree with the first commenter...:-)

I know one such BIG and freq. gifter (my ma)

and from her i learnt it's too much fun to give (big and freq.)

R's Mom said...

I guess I would give back a gift when my time comes...perhaps you can just call him and tell him that it was a bit extravagant..and then give him some appropriate when you can eh? (Sometimes gifts are so difficult to deal with na)

cantaloupes.amma said...

@Rohini: Yes Rohini ... I agree returning the gift may not have been appropriate. We have been inviting the guy to our house often and he has started to open up and seems to bond well with BP.

@Boo: I think its the single folks who shock us with such expensive gifts... and I am completely convinced its because they are clueless on the gifting "standards / range" so to say. Atleast I know this person who gifted us is fresh graduate, new to US and gifting scene, so he is clueless what is "appropriate" gifting. And yes, we are waiting for him to get married .... we already have decided what we are gifting :)

Cantaloupes.Amma (CA) said...

@Arthi: Welcome here ... hoping over to your blog :)

@mim: Pls don't even get me started on the gifts mothers give ... as much fun it is to gift ... its no fun to receive especially from unexpected quarters.

Cantaloupes.Amma (CA) said...

@RM: Oh ... we have been inviting him quite often since he moved to our area. He is a very shy guy ... but is bonding quite well with BP (much to even his parent's amusement ) And I know he will be getting married in a year or two ... and I will have an opportunity to gift generously.

But when I ask myself "Would I have gifted him the same had he not gifted me so generously?" .. the answer seems to be tilting towards "No" and that makes me tad sad.

 

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