Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Time sense

“Time and tide wait for none” … this is something I really believe in. So, if there is a party I am invited for and the time indicated is 6:30pm … it truly means 6:30pm, and I am at the party venue at 6:30pm. It embarrasses me if I am late …
But unfortunately the above importance to time is given only by me in our house. And this is the most cause of an argument between BP and me. When it is work related meetings, BP is dot on time… but he does not hold the same time regard for other matters.

Like for eg: The other day, we were supposed to go for a family outing over the weekend. The night before, BP and I were talking and he mentioned that we could leave after breakfast and spend the day at the zoo and the beach close by. So the time freak that I am, I got up early on a Saturday morning, prepared tea/ breakfast, packed snacks / juice / fruits for the picnic, cleaned the house and got dressed by 9:30am. That’s when I realize, BP has just woken from bed!! Already I was a little upset … BP then sipped his tea for an entire 30 mins (how can one do that? Isn’t tea supposed to be sipped when hot??? 30min of sipping !!) Once done with the tea, he went to the patio to water the plants. By then it was close to 10:30 … I was starting to get hungry too. (Since we get a chance to eat breakfast together only during weekends, I usually wait until all 3 of us are at the table) By noon, BP was finally ready and I was fuming … BP knew clearly why I was upset. So when he said “Relax … its just a weekend trip … the idea is to spend time together … whether we spend time at home or the zoo … how does it matter?” … I just could not take it. I mean, I could have very much relaxed and slept hugging my warm cantaloupe for longer … I needn’t had to rush all the chores … anyways, all I ended up remaining silent and gave a stern look … BP understood it all!

Come to think of it, most of my family members are pretty sensitive about it… atleast my parents are. My sister used to be, but is soon loosing out. But in BP’s family, no one really cares about the time factor. I was in for a rude shock the first time I went to their house after marriage. Dinner was served at 11:00pm !!! In my house we ate dinner at 8:30pm … sharp! Their disrespect of time really has no bounds … the other day, they had invited people over to their house. The invitation was for 4:30pm … but then nobody cared to clean up or get dressed or prepare snacks even when the clock showed 4:15 … I could not take it any more and asked them why they were just not getting ready when they said, “Invitation says 4:30, which means no one will be here before 6:30 …. Who comes at 4:30??”. I did not know what to say. Atleast BP gets ready on time when we are expecting guests, I thought.

Is it really wrong to be punctual? If we are invited to a friend’s place at a certain time, is it wrong to be there on time?


~nm said...

you sound just like me! When I'm getting ready for work and if things are not 95% complete when there are still 20mins left for me to leave for work, I start saying, "late ho gaye" and hubby would say "Huh?" abhi to itna time hai!

Poor you..I can truly sympathise with you!

Moppet's Mom said...

Hey, we need more folks like you. I'm anal about being on time too - although I must confess that I'm finding it harder to be on time when I have to take Moppet somewhere. I do try real hard though.

Now to lighten up - a nickname tag fo you :-)

ddmom said...

I so want to say me too, but it does not happen in realty. I try hard, but somehow can't seem to make it and its getting harder with 2. Sigh..
Reg the 30 min chai sipping, Gosh whats up with men and chai? Mine does that too and irritates me to the core..

Squiggles Mom said...

In my house it's the other way round. In fact my in laws take it to the other extreme. On my baby shower they were given the time for noon. We decided we would be ready by 11.30 since they are always quite punctual. But you know they turned up at 11! Everything was in a mess and my poor dad couldn't change into formal clothes because he pretended to be ready :). Ah, sometimes we just have to take it easy!


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